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posted by [personal profile] the_dala at 09:02am on 17/10/2009
So twenty-four hours ago, I would've had a really good outlook on the state of the Dala. I moved out of my parents' house last weekend, into a two-bedroom apartment with [livejournal.com profile] tricksterquinn. It's close to where we work, cute as a button, with decent rent. We also had a bunch of people to help us with the move last Saturday so it went pretty smoothly (although I still have about a dozen boxes of books to transport. Seriously, I possess SO MANY BOOKS OMG). I have a new bed (my first new bed since I was a toddler), a new Ikea desk that I built all by myself (in pine, although I might've been tempted by the red one if they'd had it), a ridiculous amount of closet space (I plan to use one closet just for my American Girl dolls and their copious shit, is what I'm saying), the first real comforter set I've ever bought (the blue one), a much easier commute to work since I now live south of everywhere I need to, and a kickass roommate. Aside from the lack of Internet and TV, it was a pretty bitchin' week.

Then I got into a car accident last night.

I was leaving my development, heading back to Gburg to meet up with everybody for the annual Markoff's Haunted Forest expedition. It was dusk, it was raining, and I didn't look closely enough before I pulled out into a left turn. A girl in a navy Sonata was coming up on my left, closer and faster than I'd thought, and she hit me in the back driver's side. The wheel was all crunched up and made a horrible sound scraping over the asphalt, but I managed to get the car off the road into a parking lot. I saw that the other girl hadn't gotten out of her car and her airbag had deployed, and that was when I sarted to freak out. A nice guy pulled over and called the cops; they got there seriously within two minutes, and then an ambulance and a firetruck showed up.

So I was sitting in my car, freaking the fuck out and sobbing into my sleeve. I called my dad to come get me, one of the officers got my info, and a very nice (and attractive, which helped to distract me from the panic) EMT came over to make sure I was okay. He could tell I was mostly upset because I was worried about the other girl, who was being put on a stretcher, and said that she didn't appear to have any serious injuries - I calmed down somewhat after that. However, my mother's tin ear for comfort did not help. First she called while I was on the phone with Geico, and left a message that went like this: "Hey [Dala], your dad called and said you were in an accident - I hope the car is okay, and you're okay." Yes, she actually asked about the car first. They own the car, and it is under their insurance still, but I don't consider that any excuse. I called her back and tried to calmly explain what had happened, but I started to lose my shit again. She apologized for sounding like that in the message, but THEN she said, "Don't cry! Did you cry in front of the rescue guys?" I...did not even have a response to this, except for WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU, I AM UPSET, I AM CRYING, I DO NOT CARE WHO SEES.

Anyway. Eventually the officer came over and gave me a citation, because it was my fault. Dad got there, and the tow truck got there, and they took my car off while my dad expressed doubt that they'd be able to fix it which is something I'm choosing not to think about right now, along with the rise in car insurance costs this is likely to cause.

It wasn't a bad accident - no one was seriously injured (later last night, Mom pointed out "Well, the other girl could have had internal bleeding" which was NOT HELPFUL, MOTHER) and it was just our two cars. But it was really scary. The only other accident I've had was a minor fender-bender in rush hour traffic.

I'm mostly okay this morning. My shoulders and back are sore, my chest hurts a little from the seatbelt, and my bad knee's twinging a bit but it could certainly have been worse. I think I will spend this weekend doing absolutely nothing and maybe take a sick day on Monday.
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posted by [identity profile] sangueuk.livejournal.com at 01:38pm on 17/10/2009
Hey, so glad you are ok. That stuff your mum said sucks but focus on what you need this weekend. Remember that she would have gone into serious stress mode when she heard about the accident and serious stress often makes mums say stupid things. Casual dumb remarks can hurt so much, can't they?

*sends you virtual chocolate and points to the amount of lovely k/m out there*

Treat yourself to the good stuff to make up for it.
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 09:41pm on 18/10/2009
Aw, thanks! I did buy a whole load of Halloween candy...
 
posted by [identity profile] sparky77.livejournal.com at 01:48pm on 17/10/2009
*hugs* That's super scary. I'm glad you are okay! Definitely take it easy and if you are still sore after a few days, go to a doctor!
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 12:53am on 20/10/2009
Thanks! I feel fine now (not that I didn't take the day off anyway :)
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posted by [personal profile] lj_stowaway at 02:07pm on 17/10/2009
{{{{hugs}}}} How terrifying! I'm glad it's not worse, but still that's a traumatic thing to happen.

Be good to yourself this weekend and yes, if you still hurt after a few days, get yourself checked out.

You poor thing. {{{hugs}}}
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 12:53am on 20/10/2009
Thanks, hon :)
 
posted by [identity profile] savoytruffle.livejournal.com at 02:11pm on 17/10/2009
I'm am so thankful that you and the other girl are both okay. Yes, the rest of it still totally sucks, but you and the other girl are the most important things. Everything else will work itself out eventually.
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 12:54am on 20/10/2009
Thank you :) (I hope the girl's okay - The insurance company hadn't reached her by this morning)
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 12:54am on 20/10/2009
Thanks, hon! ::hugs::
 
posted by [identity profile] thistlerose.livejournal.com at 02:45pm on 17/10/2009
*HUG* That's really scary. I'm so glad you and the other girl are all right. That's the most important thing.
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 12:55am on 20/10/2009
Thanks! Yeah, it could've been a lot worse.
 
posted by [identity profile] resplendissante.livejournal.com at 03:10pm on 17/10/2009
Oh my God, that's ridiculous and scary. D: I'm so so so sorry that it happened to you -- I rear-ended someone fairly badly during the first month I had my license, and I was in absolute utter shock for days afterward. :(
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 12:56am on 20/10/2009
Whoa, that's a horrible time for a first accident! Thanks :)
 
posted by [identity profile] celandineb.livejournal.com at 03:31pm on 17/10/2009
{{{hugs}}} I'm so glad you're okay. It was totally understandable that you'd be really upset! Taking a couple of days to just chill sounds like a good plan.
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 12:57am on 20/10/2009
Yep, the chilling did help, thanks :)
 
posted by [identity profile] tricksterquinn.livejournal.com at 03:46pm on 17/10/2009
I'm sending you many more hugs this way, too. *HUGS*
 
posted by [identity profile] strangemuses.livejournal.com at 03:59pm on 17/10/2009
Oh you poor thing! I'm glad that you are okay and it sounds like the other girl will be okay, too.
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 12:58am on 20/10/2009
Thank you - yeah, I hope she's okay.
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posted by [personal profile] florahart at 04:30pm on 17/10/2009
One of my goals as a parent is to avoid saying incredibly stupid things in bad moments. So far, so good, but then, I'm not done (my guys are teenagers; I'm sure it's coming). But yeah, moms under my-baby-omg stresses say and do ridiculous things even when they're otherwise quite bright and sympathetic.

Lying around doing nothing seems like a good plan. Possibly with chocolate or pancakes or something. And fic. *nods* I would offer ficlet bandaids to go with icon bandaids, but you'd have to prompt; I don't know you well enough to guess.

Here is my general advice for feeling better when non-chemically sad: make other people smile, on purpose (my favorite methods include things like thanking harried grocery clerks for not bruising my produce). They smile at you, and there's a reflex there to smile back, plus people smiling at you is always nice. It sounds hokey as hell, but it works pretty well anyway--downside: you do have to go out of the house for this to work, probably.

Edit: dammit, login cookie vanished while I was writing comment, and stole correct icon. *fixes*
Edited Date: 2009-10-17 04:32 pm (UTC)
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 01:01am on 20/10/2009
You know what, I went to buy some apartment stuff not long after I posted this - and smiling with people totally helped :) Thank you!
 
posted by [identity profile] veronica-rich.livejournal.com at 04:57pm on 17/10/2009
I've been in a few wrecks. I even caused one, totaled my oldsmobile on the front of a Mercedes. That one led to some epic tears and yelling. You'll feel better, I promise. Eventually.
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 01:01am on 20/10/2009
Thank you :) It's...coming along slowly.
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posted by [personal profile] fairestcat at 05:20pm on 17/10/2009
*HUGS LOTS* I'm SO very glad you're ok and that the other woman sounds like she wasn't hurt much either. Spending the weekend doing absolutely nothing sounds like an excellent plan.



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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 01:02am on 20/10/2009
Thanks, hon! ::hugs:: How are you?
 
posted by [identity profile] torn-eledhwen.livejournal.com at 05:22pm on 17/10/2009
Glad you're okay - definitely take some time to chill. Eat chocolate.
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 01:04am on 20/10/2009
Chocolate helps :) Thanks!
 
posted by [identity profile] ceria-taliesin.livejournal.com at 05:26pm on 17/10/2009
Yikes! I'm glad you're both okay. Taking Monday off is a great idea, and I agree, go to the doctor if you don't feel better soon.

I agree parents can say the dumbest things sometimes. Mine always did and I fear I will too when she gets older.
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 01:05am on 20/10/2009
Hee, that's the right perspective :) Thanks, hon.
 
posted by [identity profile] lizzybees.livejournal.com at 06:54pm on 17/10/2009
Eek! I'm glad you're both okay, and I agree with taking Monday off especially if you're still in pain.

*hugs*
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 01:05am on 20/10/2009
::hugs back:: Thanks, hon!
 
posted by [identity profile] artaxastra.livejournal.com at 06:55pm on 17/10/2009
I am so sorry! I'm glad you're not badly hurt, and that the other girl didn't seem to be either. *Hugs*
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 01:07am on 20/10/2009
Thanks! Yeah, it could've gone a LOT worse...
 
posted by [identity profile] graceandfire.livejournal.com at 07:34pm on 17/10/2009
Oh, dear. I am really, really glad you're both okay. I totaled my car once in a 2 car accident, and it was my fault, and it was scary as hell. The car is nothing. It's your life and your health that's irreplacable. Take care and pamper yourself and focus on the awesome things in your life :)
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 01:15am on 20/10/2009
Thank you :) ::hugs:: for your similar scary situation!
 
posted by [identity profile] ennyousai.livejournal.com at 11:12pm on 17/10/2009
The main thing is that neither of you got hurt. Take Monday off. Just relax and do something nice for yourself, yeah?
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 01:16am on 20/10/2009
Yep, I chose to shop and decorate, mostly :)
 
posted by [identity profile] lherelenfeline.livejournal.com at 01:31am on 18/10/2009
so very very glad you're OK
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 01:16am on 20/10/2009
Aw, thanks!
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posted by [identity profile] porridgebird.livejournal.com at 05:33am on 18/10/2009
I'm so glad you are okay!!! *huge hugs*
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 01:17am on 20/10/2009
Thanks, hon! ::hugs back:: I'm doing a bit better now.
 
posted by [identity profile] gryphons-lair.livejournal.com at 03:46am on 19/10/2009
((((((HUGS))))))

I'm so glad you weren't seriously hurt!

Yes, take tomorrow off and take care of yourself.

((((((HUGS))))))
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 01:17am on 20/10/2009
Thank you! ::hugs back::
 
posted by [identity profile] linaerys.livejournal.com at 10:50am on 19/10/2009
That sounds really scary! I'm glad you're okay.
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posted by [identity profile] the-dala.livejournal.com at 01:18am on 20/10/2009
It was definitely scary, but I think it's finally wearing off - thanks :)
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posted by [personal profile] girlpearl at 05:43am on 20/10/2009
Oh babes. I'm glad you're okay. And not only is it okay to cry, it's REALLY HARD NOT TO when your body is all full of adrenaline and shit. So, nyah to your mom. *hugs*

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